Liberate Your Tatas!

I was in my early twenties when I took my first Pilates class and I was it was love at first sight.

I became obsessed with it and decided to get my teaching certification.  

I had fantasies of opening my own Pilates studio in Santa Fe, and living the rest of my years as a happy teacher with a great tan.

During my training, I realized how terrible my posture was.  I’d always had a bad neck and chronic back pain, but I never realized it was in direct relationship with my posture.  Duh!

When I began teaching Pilates, most of my female clients had terrible posture.  I’d always says, “Shoulders back, don’t look at the floor, liberate your tatas!”

The last one always cracked them up and they’ d say, “Liberate my what…?”

“Liberate your tatas!  Lift your chest!  Lead with your tatas and I promise you, your spine will love you for it.”

To my surprise, this was incredibly difficult for almost every single person to remember.  They’d leave our session, and then return the next week looking like Quasimodo. 

“Hey gurl!  Where’s your inner diva?  Where’s your kick-ass posture?”

And they’d laugh and straighten up.  But sure enough, the next session, it was always the same.

I came to realize that having a commanding and strong posture was more than just a mental reminder.  It was so much more than that.  

It was very much about self confidence, sense of self, and self love.  

Over many years, I’ve talked with many people about their health concerns and have found that there are far bigger issues in their lives than what they eat or how much they exercise.   

There’s a common theme among us all:  Most of us live our lives based on the past, and our pasts weigh us down.

We all have our stories.  The traumatic things that happened to us from as far back as we can remember.

We’ve had parents, siblings, relatives, teachers, friends, or partners that caused us physical or emotional pain, and it’s these memories that we hold on to and carry around with us every day.

Something traumatic happened, and then something else, and something else, and then so many things built up, until eventually we got stuck.  Paralyzed.  

These memories sit on our shoulders like vultures squawking loudly in our ears.  They tell us we aren’t good enough, worthy enough, smart enough, or pretty enough.

Our future prospects get narrower and narrower because we are remembering everything that has influenced us from your past:

  • I’ll never give my heart to another person again.
  • I’ll never trust again.
  • I won’t share as much, or give as much of myself ever again .

These past experiences become what we define ourselves by and as a result, we makes ourselves small, not wanting to be seen.  Cue Quasimodo. 

Living in the past is like driving your car and deciding which way to turn based on your rear view mirror.  I mean…that sounds pretty difficult doesn’t it?

The beautiful truth is that each and every one of us is capable of freeing ourselves from our past.  We can drop the heavy bags we carry around with us every day.  

There is infinite power in living in the present.

The gift of living in the present, is that we can acknowledge where we came from, but we can choose to let it be just that: THE PAST.   Check please!

Deepak Chopra has an awesome quote: “The most important time in your life is right now. If you aren’t present now, the future will arrive but you won’t be present for it.” 

Freeing ourselves from all our past junk is a choice we can make every day.  Take that backpack off!

Every day is a new day.  A day that holds unlimited potential for growth and healing.

It ain’t always easy folks, but its worth the work. 

We are not defined by our past.  

We are constantly evolving and growing.

We are who we want to be.

Walk tall!  Liberate your tatas!   And have the best day ever.








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  1. EXCELLENT points here — Connie Falconeri is giving you a high-five from beyond the grave! (LOL) Thank you! And congratulations on your certification. Much love and appreciation!

    • C&;ussoreqt pas tout le monde qui sont capable de faire ca. J’ai un ami qui n’a pas réussi à coucher avec sa blonde depuis 22 mois et il reste avec :O (il ne la trompe pas non plus!!!)